Empowering Roots…

I have been reading some stuff on a subject which describes the emotion of denial. I was curious to know what makes people deny certain things so strongly from the outset when they know from within that the truth is exactly opposite to what they are actually denying.  They deny just out of their ego or some other factors and hence are unable able to embrace the reality and truth with open wide arms. 

It’s strange, they know the real truth. They have been living in this reality from a very long time but talking about it out seems to be a challenge for them. Denying becomes a self defense mechanism where the individual is faced with a fact that is too uncomfortable to accept and rejects it instead, insisting that it is not true despite what may be overwhelming evidence.

I would believe that there would be numerous kinds and types of denial and it may exists in its various forms within different kind of people. Some may deny the feeling for the other; it may be denying love or may deny the resentment for the other - probably in an attempt to save the relationship. Some may live in this feeling of denial because of norms, beliefs, values, traditions, peoples reactions and oppositions. These people wouldn’t want to break out of the barriers that already existed in the society since mediveal era. These norms and traditions may have been passed down from generations, therefore encountering something alltogether new which doesn’t seem to fit into the rule book gets them into a strong denial mode.

Some denial involves avoiding personal responsibility by blaming, minimizing or justifying. The other may be a person who is avoiding to think about or understand the harms their behavior have caused to themselves or others. By doing this, that person is able to avoid feeling a sense of guilt and it can prevent that person from developing remorse or empathy for others.

Denial isn’t something to be confused with changing ones habits that needed a change from a long time. This can be a difficult concept for many people to identify in themselves, but is a major barrier to changing hurtful behaviors. Denial of denial involves thoughts, actions behaviors & emotions which can cause a break down of  confidence that nothing needs to be changed in one’s personal behavior.

It does go far to an extent that during the process of denial, we eventually get used to beleiving that it is the right thing to deny. Its becomes a comfort that denying is something that will protect you and those around you.

Deny and one wouldn’t grow, nor would be able to see an open minded perspective. The real aspect here would be, how long would they continue to deny what they are and if in the end it really gives them those results in the same form in which they truly and always desired. Would it really be an honest connection and confession from within ones soul and what they always truly felt?