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Endurance Can Be Your Strength.

November 8, 2009

image In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer – sometimes our fate resembles a fruit tree in winter; who would think that those branches would turn green again and blossom, but we hope it, we know it.

So basically, if there are bad times, they do usually tend to follow good times. Sometimes the low phase may just act as signals for you to recognize that there might be something good coming your way.

You just have to endure and live with the faith that things do turn around for your own better.

Be there a failed relationship, or a financial loss – bet it was there in your life to teach you something and make you stand up and take notice of a part of you that you must never till now had paid any attention to.

The earth is round so is the table of faith and destiny. As the earth has a constant revolution, so does your fate. Bad today, perfectly fitted tomorrow for your feet and mind.

Just endure every moment of your life. They help you learn, while some moments help you smile. Endurance can just be your strength.


Emp

 


The Club 99!!

August 7, 2009

image Once upon a time, there lived a King who, despite his luxurious lifestyle, was neither happy nor content.

One day, the King came upon a servant who was singing happily while he worked. This fascinated the King; why was he, the Supreme Ruler of the Land, unhappy and gloomy, while a lowly servant had so much joy. The King asked the servant, “Why are you so happy?”

The man replied, “Your Majesty, I am nothing but a servant, but my family and I don’t need too much – just a roof over our heads and warm food to fill our tummies.”

The king was not satisfied with that reply. Later in the day, he sought the advice of his most trusted advisor. After hearing the King’s woes and the servant’s story, the advisor said, “Your Majesty, I believe that the servant has not been made part of The 99 Club.”

“The 99 Club? And what exactly is that?” the King inquired.

The advisor replied, “Your Majesty, to truly know what The 99 Club is, place 99 Gold coins in a bag and leave it at this servant’s doorstep.”

When the servant saw the bag, he took it into his house. When he opened the bag, he let out a great shout of joy… So many gold coins! He began to count them. After several counts, he was at last convinced that there were 99 coins. He wondered, What could’ve happened to that last gold coin? Surely, no one would leave 99 coins!”

He looked everywhere he could, but that final coin was elusive. Finally, exhausted, he decided that he was going to have to work harder than ever to earn that gold coin and complete his collection.

From that day, the servant’s life was changed. He was overworked, horribly grumpy, and castigated his family for not helping him make that 100th gold coin. He stopped singing while he worked.

Witnessing this drastic transformation, the King was puzzled. When he sought his advisor’s help, the advisor said, “Your Majesty, the servant has now officially joined The 99 Club.”

He continued, “The 99 Club is a name given to those people who have enough to be happy but are never contented, because they’re always yearning and striving for that extra 1 telling to themselves: “Let me get that one final thing and then I will be happy for life.”

We can be happy, even with very little in our lives, but the minute we’re given something bigger and better, we want even more! We lose our sleep, our happiness, we hurt the people around us; all these as a price for our growing needs and desires.

That’s what joining The 99 Club is all about. It’s a choice you make, to be a part of it and continue wanting for more – without enjoying what you currently have OR Enjoy and be thankful for what you have along with working for more.

Emp

‘Just Being YOU’!

July 19, 2009

Life can be really unfair and this is what everyone thinks. Some of our best and loved relationships change with time. However, it has always been ‘the love’ relationship that has seemed to cause more harm and pain.

Is it really that difficult to not be in a relationship? We all our mortals after all. Why the dependency and the feeling of compulsion that “if I am not in a relationship” – after a certain breakup, I will not be able to survive.

imageThe desperation to jump back right into one again shows. The irritation, mood swings actually seem to get better of their own individual personality. The things that they ideally would have loved doing with their family or friends at a certain point in time in their life, seems redundant as they realize they themselves are probably not able to go back to it now. Things seemed to have changed completely and just forever.

I can understand that an entry of someone in one’s life would make certain priorities change or even change ones personality to an extent to allow an adjustment, but what I really don’t get it, is why would the person not realize that the exit is having a far more wider impact.

These people suddenly seem to realize that they love being bound in a relationship – which can be a good thing by itself, however if they are no more in one due to whatever circumstances in their life – then why doesn’t it strike them that even that is not bad either – and maybe it is just for their own better.

I believe that no one and just no one in this worldly planet can know you or understand you at the level and degree that you do ‘yourself’. Yes, there are people who are close to us, and who know our likes and dislikes, but the extent that you can go to really understand yourself, no one else will be – doesn’t matter what is the relationship you share with that person.

If it’s easy to bring someone in your life, then why does it become ‘extremely hard’ to come back to just being ‘merely YOU’; something that you were anyways before this ‘certain person’ existed. Why does it become so hard to understanding that you jut may be wasting away your life crying over and not enjoying the ‘really you’. It’s one lifetime – and one life.

If you have some one surely cherish them, but if you don’t have them, then cherish their memories – and “Enjoy being You’.

The Inner Ego…That Teaches Mis-Judgment.

July 16, 2009

image A lady in a faded Grey dress and her husband, dressed in a homespun suit walked in timidly without an appointment into the Harvard University President’s outer office. The secretary could tell in a moment that such backwoods, country hicks had no business at Harvard and probably didn’t even deserve to be in Harvard.

“We want to see the President”, the man said softly.

“He’ll be busy all day” the secretary snapped.

“We’ll wait” the lady replied.

For hours the secretary ignored them, hoping that the couple would finally become discouraged and go away. They didn’t and the secretary grew frustrated and finally decided to disturb the president.

“Maybe if you see them for a few minutes, they’ll leave” she said to him. The President, stern faced and with dignity, strutted toward the couple.

The lady told him “We had a son who attended Harvard for one year. He loved Harvard. He was happy here. But about a year ago, he was accidentally killed. My husband and I would like to erect a memorial to him, somewhere on campus.”

The president wasn’t touched….He was shocked. “Madam” he said, gruffly, “We can’t put up a statue for every person who attended Harvard and died. If we did, this place would look like a cemetery.”

“Oh, no” the lady explained quickly, “We don’t want to erect a statue. We thought we would like to give a building to Harvard.”

The president rolled his eyes. He glanced at the gingham dress and homespun suit, and then exclaimed, “A building! Do you have any earthly idea how much a building image costs? We have over seven and a half million dollars in the physical buildings here at Harvard.”

For a moment the lady was silent. The president was pleased. Maybe he could get rid of them now. The lady turned to her husband and said quietly, “Is that all it costs to start a university? Why don’t we just start our own?”

Her husband nodded. The president’s face wilted in confusion and bewilderment. Mr… and Mrs… Leland Stanford got up and walked away, traveling to Palo Alto, California   where they established the University that bears their name. Stanford University, a memorial to a son that Harvard no longer cared about.

Most of the time we judge people by their outer appearance, which can be misleading. And in this impression, we tend to treat people badly by thinking they can do nothing for us. Thus we tend to lose our potential good friends, employees or customers.

In our Life, we seldom get people with whom we want to share & grow our thought process. But because of our inner EGO we miss them forever.

It is you who have to decide with whom you are getting associated in day to day life.

The Monkey’s Dilemma…

May 18, 2009

Do you sometimes feel “stuck” in some parts of your life, business or career?

Consider the phenomenon and metaphor of how hunters in Africa  catch a monkey. In Africa, when hunters want to catch a monkey, they use a strategy that  understands the monkey’s behavior patterns — patterns that work against the monkey’s best interests.

imageThe hunter takes a jar with an opening slightly larger than a monkey’s hand. He ties a rope around the neck of it using a knot, called a monkey’s  knot which is a cradle of the rope around the jar.  The hunter places some  food in the glass jar, like rice or a banana slice.

The monkey reaches his hand into the jar, grabs the food, making a fist with his paw. Now, the monkey’s dilemma:  the monkey cannot get his hand out of the jar  unless he drops the food. The neck of the jar is simply not wide enough. Of course, the monkey could drop the food and easily get his hand out, but  it won’t. Despite having at his command the means to escape, it does not — it holds  his hand grasping the food until a hunter throws a net over it, capturing it.

Relevance to you and me? Ever held on to something that you should’ve let  go?

So many people don’t know when to let go, and move on. This can  happen in relationships, when one holds one way beyond when they should let go, and move on.

It happens in business when you get one of those customers from Hades, and  not worth the time, pain and effort to keep them.

Hard to let them go, yes  — but totally necessary. Survival is the first way of business, and there may be customers that you don’t want or need. Are there outdated methods, beliefs or habits that you’re holding on to, that are not moving you forward?

Stuff lying around the office or house that should be thrown away? Part of what keeps us from reaching our potential is holding on to old  beliefs that don’t move us toward our dreams — with our fist stuck in the  jar. Take a serious look at your life — your work or personal life — and decide what needs to be “let go.”

Letting Go can actually open up your mind to new opportunities and dimensions that you may have thought never existed.

Money Has No Memory. Experience Has It..

May 15, 2009

imageSomething that I came across..and so had to share it; as it round again comes back and talks about the Factor of Time – something that I have mentioned in my previous post of Race With The Hour Glass.

Would surely love to know your thoughts!!!

You will never know what the total cost of your education was, but for a lifetime you will recall and relive the memories of schools and colleges. Few years from now, you will forget the amount you paid to settle the hospitalization bill, but will ever cherish having saved your mother’s life or the life you get to live with the just born. You won’t remember the cost of your honeymoon, but to the last breath remember the experiences of the bliss of togetherness.

Money has no memory. Experience has.

Good times and bad times, times of prosperity and times of poverty, times when the future looked so secure and times when you didn’t know from where the tomorrow will come… life has been in one way or the other a roller-coaster ride for everyone. Beyond all that abundance and beyond all that deprivation, what remains is the memory of experiences. Sometimes the wallet was full… sometimes even the pocket was empty. There was enough and you still had reasons to frown. There wasn’t enough and you still had reasons to smile.

Today, you can look back with tears of gratitude for all the times you had laughed together, and also look back with a smile at all the times you cried alone. All in all, life filled you with experiences to create a history of your own self, and you alone can remember them all.
•         The first time you balanced yourself on your cycle without support…
•         The first cry… the first steps… the first word… all of your child…
•         The first gift you bought for your parents and the first gift your daughter gave you…
•         The first award… the first public appreciation… the first stage performance…
•         And the list is endless… Experiences, with timeless memory…

No denying that anything that’s material cost money, but the fact remains the cost of the experience will be forgotten, but the experience never.
So, what if it’s economic recession? Let it be, but let there not be a recession to the quality of your life. You can still take your parents, if not on a pilgrimage, at least to the local temple. You can still play with your children, if not on an international holiday, at least in the local park. It doesn’t cost money to lie down or to take a loved one onto your lap.

Nice time to train the employees, create leadership availability and be ready for the wonderful times when they arrive. Hey! Aspects like your health, knowledge development and spiritual growth are not economy dependent.

Time will pass… economy will revive… currency will soon be in current… and in all this, I don’t want you to look back and realize you did nothing but stayed in gloom. Recession can make you lose out on money. Let it not make you lose out on experiences… If you are not happy with what you have, no matter how much more you have, you will still not be happy.

Make a statement with the way you live your life: How I feel has nothing to do with how much I have.

Did I Marry The Right Person?

May 14, 2009

This is a very good article to those who are still single – may learn something from here…. I received this in my email and it surely was thought provoking. Those who are already married can surely enhance their thoughts and relationship through this.

Did I Marry The Right Person?

image During one of our seminars, a woman asked a common question. She said, “How do I know if I married the right person?”
I noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so I said, “It depends. Is that your husband?” In all seriousness, she answered “How do you know?”
Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it’s weighing on your mind.

Here’s the answer.

EVERY relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fell in love with your spouse. You anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and liked their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love with your spouse wasn’t hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn’t have to DO anything. That’s why it’s called “falling” in love… Because it’s happening TO YOU.

People in love sometimes say, “I was swept of my feet.” Think about the imagery of that __expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something came along and happened TO YOU. Falling is love is easy. It’s a passive and spontaneous experience.

But after a few years of marriage, the euphoria of love fades. It’s the natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse’s idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts.

The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship, but if you think about your marriage, you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.

At this point, you and/or your spouse might start asking, “Did I marry the right person?” And as you and your spouse reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when marriages breakdown. People blame their spouse for their unhappiness and look outside their marriage for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the most obvious. But sometimes people turn to work,a hobby, a friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances.

But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your marriage. It lies within it. I’m not saying that you couldn’t fall in love with someone else. You could. And temporarily you’d feel better. But you’d be in the same situation a few years later.

Because (listen carefully to this):

The key to succeeding in marriage is not finding the right person; it’s learning to love the person you found.. Sustaining love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. It’ll NEVER just happen to you. You can’t “find” LASTING love. You have to “make” it day in and day out.

That’s why we have the __expression “the labor of love.” Because it takes time, effort, and energy . And most importantly, it takes WISDOM . You have to know WHAT TO DO to make your marriage work. Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your spouse) to succeed with your marriage.

Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. Just as the right diet and exercise program makes you physically stronger, certain habits in your relationship WILL make your marriage stronger. It’s a direct cause and effect. If you know and apply the laws, the results are predictable…you can “make” love.

“Love in marriage is indeed a “decision”… Not just a feeling
No one falls in love by choice, it is by CHANCE.
No one stays in love by chance, it is by WORK.
And no one falls out of love by chance, it is by choice”