Archive for May 2009

Searching…

May 29, 2009

SearchAll right, it’s been over a week that I have been back from my most amazing vacation in Miami, Florida and I just seemed to have lost my mojo to write.

I don’t know where all my inspirations and thoughts have just vanished that suddenly I feel like I have nothing to say about. 

It feels like, I have already said what I wanted to and the system is completely shut at this time. 

I do have my fleeting moments of trying to pen something down, but it seems my motivation has been taken away. 

I want to write and I am sure, I have loads within me that I can get out, but maybe here are some blockages some where. 

I am Looking…
I am Searching…

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The Monkey’s Dilemma…

May 18, 2009

Do you sometimes feel “stuck” in some parts of your life, business or career?

Consider the phenomenon and metaphor of how hunters in Africa  catch a monkey. In Africa, when hunters want to catch a monkey, they use a strategy that  understands the monkey’s behavior patterns — patterns that work against the monkey’s best interests.

imageThe hunter takes a jar with an opening slightly larger than a monkey’s hand. He ties a rope around the neck of it using a knot, called a monkey’s  knot which is a cradle of the rope around the jar.  The hunter places some  food in the glass jar, like rice or a banana slice.

The monkey reaches his hand into the jar, grabs the food, making a fist with his paw. Now, the monkey’s dilemma:  the monkey cannot get his hand out of the jar  unless he drops the food. The neck of the jar is simply not wide enough. Of course, the monkey could drop the food and easily get his hand out, but  it won’t. Despite having at his command the means to escape, it does not — it holds  his hand grasping the food until a hunter throws a net over it, capturing it.

Relevance to you and me? Ever held on to something that you should’ve let  go?

So many people don’t know when to let go, and move on. This can  happen in relationships, when one holds one way beyond when they should let go, and move on.

It happens in business when you get one of those customers from Hades, and  not worth the time, pain and effort to keep them.

Hard to let them go, yes  — but totally necessary. Survival is the first way of business, and there may be customers that you don’t want or need. Are there outdated methods, beliefs or habits that you’re holding on to, that are not moving you forward?

Stuff lying around the office or house that should be thrown away? Part of what keeps us from reaching our potential is holding on to old  beliefs that don’t move us toward our dreams — with our fist stuck in the  jar. Take a serious look at your life — your work or personal life — and decide what needs to be “let go.”

Letting Go can actually open up your mind to new opportunities and dimensions that you may have thought never existed.

Money Has No Memory. Experience Has It..

May 15, 2009

imageSomething that I came across..and so had to share it; as it round again comes back and talks about the Factor of Time – something that I have mentioned in my previous post of Race With The Hour Glass.

Would surely love to know your thoughts!!!

You will never know what the total cost of your education was, but for a lifetime you will recall and relive the memories of schools and colleges. Few years from now, you will forget the amount you paid to settle the hospitalization bill, but will ever cherish having saved your mother’s life or the life you get to live with the just born. You won’t remember the cost of your honeymoon, but to the last breath remember the experiences of the bliss of togetherness.

Money has no memory. Experience has.

Good times and bad times, times of prosperity and times of poverty, times when the future looked so secure and times when you didn’t know from where the tomorrow will come… life has been in one way or the other a roller-coaster ride for everyone. Beyond all that abundance and beyond all that deprivation, what remains is the memory of experiences. Sometimes the wallet was full… sometimes even the pocket was empty. There was enough and you still had reasons to frown. There wasn’t enough and you still had reasons to smile.

Today, you can look back with tears of gratitude for all the times you had laughed together, and also look back with a smile at all the times you cried alone. All in all, life filled you with experiences to create a history of your own self, and you alone can remember them all.
•         The first time you balanced yourself on your cycle without support…
•         The first cry… the first steps… the first word… all of your child…
•         The first gift you bought for your parents and the first gift your daughter gave you…
•         The first award… the first public appreciation… the first stage performance…
•         And the list is endless… Experiences, with timeless memory…

No denying that anything that’s material cost money, but the fact remains the cost of the experience will be forgotten, but the experience never.
So, what if it’s economic recession? Let it be, but let there not be a recession to the quality of your life. You can still take your parents, if not on a pilgrimage, at least to the local temple. You can still play with your children, if not on an international holiday, at least in the local park. It doesn’t cost money to lie down or to take a loved one onto your lap.

Nice time to train the employees, create leadership availability and be ready for the wonderful times when they arrive. Hey! Aspects like your health, knowledge development and spiritual growth are not economy dependent.

Time will pass… economy will revive… currency will soon be in current… and in all this, I don’t want you to look back and realize you did nothing but stayed in gloom. Recession can make you lose out on money. Let it not make you lose out on experiences… If you are not happy with what you have, no matter how much more you have, you will still not be happy.

Make a statement with the way you live your life: How I feel has nothing to do with how much I have.

Did I Marry The Right Person?

May 14, 2009

This is a very good article to those who are still single – may learn something from here…. I received this in my email and it surely was thought provoking. Those who are already married can surely enhance their thoughts and relationship through this.

Did I Marry The Right Person?

image During one of our seminars, a woman asked a common question. She said, “How do I know if I married the right person?”
I noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so I said, “It depends. Is that your husband?” In all seriousness, she answered “How do you know?”
Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it’s weighing on your mind.

Here’s the answer.

EVERY relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fell in love with your spouse. You anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and liked their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love with your spouse wasn’t hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn’t have to DO anything. That’s why it’s called “falling” in love… Because it’s happening TO YOU.

People in love sometimes say, “I was swept of my feet.” Think about the imagery of that __expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something came along and happened TO YOU. Falling is love is easy. It’s a passive and spontaneous experience.

But after a few years of marriage, the euphoria of love fades. It’s the natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse’s idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts.

The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship, but if you think about your marriage, you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.

At this point, you and/or your spouse might start asking, “Did I marry the right person?” And as you and your spouse reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when marriages breakdown. People blame their spouse for their unhappiness and look outside their marriage for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the most obvious. But sometimes people turn to work,a hobby, a friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances.

But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your marriage. It lies within it. I’m not saying that you couldn’t fall in love with someone else. You could. And temporarily you’d feel better. But you’d be in the same situation a few years later.

Because (listen carefully to this):

The key to succeeding in marriage is not finding the right person; it’s learning to love the person you found.. Sustaining love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. It’ll NEVER just happen to you. You can’t “find” LASTING love. You have to “make” it day in and day out.

That’s why we have the __expression “the labor of love.” Because it takes time, effort, and energy . And most importantly, it takes WISDOM . You have to know WHAT TO DO to make your marriage work. Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your spouse) to succeed with your marriage.

Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. Just as the right diet and exercise program makes you physically stronger, certain habits in your relationship WILL make your marriage stronger. It’s a direct cause and effect. If you know and apply the laws, the results are predictable…you can “make” love.

“Love in marriage is indeed a “decision”… Not just a feeling
No one falls in love by choice, it is by CHANCE.
No one stays in love by chance, it is by WORK.
And no one falls out of love by chance, it is by choice”

Miami Calling….

May 9, 2009

This year so far has been so so….and not that great as I would have wanted it to be. But my fourth gear for this year started last week when I flew out for a good long deserved break to hit the Beaches of Miami…!

Don’t miss me too much! I will be back soon with my adventurous flings and swings of Miami!

Adios..!